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WTF Did I Just Read: Where Is My Army Wife Pay?

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From the "Dear Ms. Vicki" column on Military.com


This was not a joke. This woman was serious. I don't want to live on this planet anymore.


Dear Ms. Vicki,

My husband graduated from West Point two years ago, and I am basically living below an acceptable standard. I was never raised like this. My poor grandmother has been sending me money for the past year just so I can have the things I am accustomed to.


Ms. Vicki, I was told that Army wives are paid a monthly stipend just for being a wife at a minimum of $800. The amount is supposed to increase based on rank. Mine should at least be $1,000. Could you please let me know who to talk to so I can discuss this issue? I have not seen any of this money, and it’s been two years now.


I’m used to nice expensive things, and my husband promised my father that he would take care of me just like he did when I was living at home. I’m so jealous of my little sisters because they are still living at home with my parents.



When I go home to visit, the first thing my mother does is take me to the hairdresser because I’m a mess and I can’t afford to get it done. I feel so sad and angry every day.

 

I’m mad at my husband for choosing to be in the Army, and I’m mad that I am living in such an awful place. I don’t think this will get better for me.

 

I’m so homesick, and the other wives act like this is the best life they have ever had. They are not like me. We are not the same, so I don’t have any friends. Everyone keeps pushing the Family Readiness Group -- the FRG this and the FRG that, but the women are like Stepford Wives who live, eat and breathe the Army. They are ridiculous!

 

I have an undergraduate degree from the University of Oklahoma in education, but I can’t get a teaching job because Texas makes it so hard for someone like me to get certified.

 

I just don’t know what to do anymore, and my husband is stressing out because he knows I’m not happy because he doesn’t make enough money. I’m trying to understand how to adapt to this situation, but I don’t think I can because I can’t live like this.

 

My parents spent thousands of dollars for my wedding, and I feel like they did everything for nothing.

 

Sincerely,
Missing Oklahoma

 

THE RESPONSE

 

Dear Miss Oklahoma,

Whew! Where do I start in answering your letter? I’m not sure if you are asking for advice or if you simply wanted to vent.

 

From the tone of your letter, I think you may have been too immature to get married. I can see that you are very close to your parents. No one knows their children like parents do. Because of this, I wish your parents would have told you that you were not ready for marriage.

 

Who told you that Army wives get a stipend? Honestly, I keep getting this question from wives asking about monetary benefits. To answer your question, there is no stipend, no monetary benefits for military spouses.

 

Servicemembers can choose to give a monthly allotment to a spouse or whoever, but the money is deducted from their own pay. It does not come from the Department of the Army or Department of Defense.

 

You definitely deserve the best. Every woman deserves the best, but you sound like a spoiled Daddy’s girl who misses home because you were pampered instead of given the opportunity to be independent.

 

Listen, you are a wife now and you need to decide if you are ready for the responsibility because your responsibilities will increase. You are stressing your husband out about his pay and making him feel like a failure when the truth is that he is very successful. He graduated from West Point and has taken an oath to serve his country.

 

You should be so proud of him for this accomplishment. Instead, you are putting him down and making him think he does not measure up to your Daddy. Furthermore, you are making disparaging remarks about all military spouses like we are beneath you, but this is not true.

 

Here’s the deal: You can give up and move back home. Or you can stay with your husband, grow up and stop depending on your parents and grandmother to support you financially. Military.com and SpouseBuzz.com have a lot of information and resources for new spouses.

 

You need to get a job. I’m from Texas, and I have many educators in my family. I’ve never heard them say that it was a burden to become a certified teacher. However, you have to follow the procedure. In the meantime, you should register to become a substitute teacher or get employment in a different field.

 

Your complaining is not helping. I think I will stop here before I say something that is not very nice. I’m trying to consider your age and give you some understanding. I wish I could help more.

 

Sincerely,
Ms. Vicki



She needs this

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24 Comments

holy **** she went full Dependa. with a Diva attitude and all.

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holy **** she went full Dependa. with a Diva attitude and all.

 

Beyond full dependa

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a wife needs a kick in the ass spoiled primadonna!! If i ever heard that **** come out of woman's mouth around me i swear i would loose my military bearing and my southern gentleman's charm and put some Ike Turner on her! Her old man deserves a promotion just for putting up with her spoiled lil butt! Shes the kind of woman that will marry a guy then for the rest of her life sit on her lazy spoiled ass while he works his ass to the bone defending her and countless other useless people and probably died doing it and all she'll do is marry another Joe for her "meal-ticket" Upper-class bimbo. she needs to get fixed so she doesn't contaminated the worlds gene pool with more like her selfish ass. tell you what she should go be a stripper i her they make good money and then she can have everyone pampering her with what shes worth a dollar bill!! Worth sack of meat is what she is !!!

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3IDBANGBANG
Jul 12 2013 10:26 PM

Good response from Ms.Vicki! I wouldn't have been so nice and my wife would have drop kicked her for **** like that. Having been on a couple deployment and my wife holding the fort at home we can both say FRG is great and helps develop great relationships amoung those at home.

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If you knew me, this phrase would hold the weight of the world; I am totally speechless...

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All I can say is ****...Homeboy fucked up marrying her, her cootchie must be fan freakin tastic, lol. Poor bastard, I feel for him, he has to love her and she a motivation raper.

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Wow! B***** got some dependa's attitude.. Look sweety, you're straight tripping! Too bad for the guy married you, I feel sorry for you're husband cuz he married a Diva! You don't deserve your husband! Shoot, you should be proud of him serving our country to protect your freedom..
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Who does this stupid ***** think she is?! Go out and get a job, there's your monetary bennys you crave so bad. I truly feel sorry for her husband. The man graduates west point and took his oath, I think that alone says volumes of his character. Barron the ***** so she can re-attach the umbilical cord that she yearns for so ******* bad
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I have no words.

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Something-Simple
Jul 13 2013 03:59 PM

Un-Fuckin'-Believable. 

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I'm speechless! Some Army wife's are the worst. They complain about moving, not having enough money,and living in shitty places but they don't ever get off there asses and find a damn job!!! You can't depend in your husband to bring all the money. Stop thinking that you can't do any physical work and start ******* looking!
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PS1 Retired
Jul 17 2013 06:37 PM

Scorpio1, "Homeboy" didn't **** up marrying her, "Homeboy" saved a good NCO's career, by taking that bullet for him (or possibly even her) when she was first discovered drunk on her ass at some Off base, back gate date club somewhere in this world during a unit keg party!!

 

 

I salute every officer with pride and respect for getting eligible women like that off the streets, before they latch onto some lonely enlisted soldier and says in an alcohol-induced voice "I love you"!!

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I read this on military. I don't know whether to laugh, feel sorry for the guy, or throat punch her.

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I...I quit...

 



 

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wow.. just wow...

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Someone please smack some reality into this princess!!

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Well, there goes my portion of faith in humanity for today.

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BeatYourFace
Aug 02 2013 02:41 PM

I am ashamed to know she might be a true Okie woman. Total disgrace! Of course, she's an OU grad, which explains 98% of it. But damn, really?

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PS1 Retired
Aug 10 2013 05:13 AM

"I don't need to clean up those bread crumbs, my husband's a 2nd Lieutenant in the US Army!! 

 

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I may live in Oklahoma, I'm from Arizona, but I will attest to the fact that there are some really really stupid people here....please tell me someone whooped her ass?

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I was waiting for her to say that she was a pagent girl.
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OH MY!!!!!!!! I believe that child needs a good old fashion wood shed experience

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Born and raised in Oklahoma I feel ashamed at this garbage....i can only think of just a handfull of reasons someone would marry a person like this none of which are important anyways. And Piper there are arrogent people everywhere but Oklahoma is not know for people like this she needs to stay in Texas as far as im concerned haha.

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